Bookish Babble: Comments & Commenting back

Posted August 14, 2014 by Bee in Memes & Features / 13 Comments

Bookish Babble is a feature created by me, Bieke. In these posts I talk about bookish topics (sometimes not so bookish…) and ask for your opinion on the matter! I love hearing from you guys and I love discussion topics, so in these posts I’ll just talk about what comes to my mind and hope you’ll give your opinion. If there is something you want to talk about here on Bookish Babble, fill out the contact form on this page.

Comments & Commenting Back

I’ve been thinking about this for quite a while now and I finally decided to share my thoughts with you guys and see what you think about it. So here goes. Let’s talk about commenting!

Everyone loves getting comments on their posts. The more the merrier. It’s always fun to talk books with someone, isn’t it? I always try to reply to comments I get, even if it’s just to thank that person for stopping by. I also try to return the favor and comment on one of their posts. That’s just the right thing to do, no? I think so. But then there are the memes… Those are tricky posts. You don’t want to give a generic comment you just copy and paste from blog to blog. I never do that. I also never leave a link to my post for that meme. My blog name is always in my name so I trust people to find the latest post on my blog by clicking on that name of typing in the blog address themselves. Commentluv is a wonderful help with that. I just don’t like leaving a link like “Here’s my WoW this week, come visit!” I feel to pushy and when I get something like that, I feel forced to comment back and I don’t like that.

But what I really wanted to talk about was this: for weeks now I always get a comment on my Waiting on Wednesday and Stacking The shelves posts from the same person. And it’s nice of her to comment, but I see her comment the same thing on a lot of other blogs that day and actually every week. When she returns the favor of me commenting on one of her other posts, she just comments on one of those two posts of mine, even if they’re a week old by then. That just doesn’t make me happy. She can comment as much as she want, but when I get a comment I really want to talk books and hear your opinion. And if I see that opinion a hundred times over on the same day on a hundred other blogs… I don’t see what the use is of commenting.

What do you guys think about this?
Bee

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13 responses to “Bookish Babble: Comments & Commenting back

  1. For me, I’ll always reply but I won’t comment on their blog unless they’ve actually commented on my blog properly. I don’t think people should bother commenting on people who’ve said “haven’t heard of any of these but I hope you enjoy” because it’s obviously copy pasted. Sometimes, I’ll click on the link and if I like the content on their blog, I’ll comment. But usually, if their not putting effort in their comments, the content on their blog is of the same quality. I don’t wanna be harsh but I think it’s fair. :3

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  2. That’s one of the reasons I stopped linking up with memes. For a while I even continued doing Waiting on Wednesday posts, but I stopped adding my URL to the linky. Whenever I did that, I got a bunch of copy ad paste comments and always felt obligated to return the comment but I didn’t always have time.

    On a semi-related note, while commenting back is nice, I don’t like it when it becomes an obligation. I’d rather have genuine comments because people WANT to comment rather than people commenting back because they feel obligated. For example, there are a few “Bloggers Commenting Back” programs where people sign up and you get partnered with another blogger. They comment on your blog and you comment on theirs in exchange. I honestly think things like that are a bit lame. I don’t want someone “assigned” to comment on my blog. I’d rather have people choose to comment because they have something to say, rather than forcing themselves to say something, you know?

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  3. Honestly, I send generic comments like that to spam, anything were the author has clearly copy-pasted the comment onto multiple post and it includes a link back to their blog. That’s not thoughtful or nice, it’s just advertising.

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  4. Bee, I understand completely where you are coming from! I hate it when I get those generic comments where I can actually see that their sole purpose is to generate traffic! I’ve had a follower like that, too, whose comments would always be one of the following: “Great pick”, “Great review, keep them coming!”, “I completely agree with you, wow!”. I was wondering, does she not realize that I actually check out the profile of everyone that comments on my blog and that I notice when she comments every week the same on many blogs? She would also always leave a link to her own post even though every comment could be linked back. I eventually simply stopped commenting back to her, because I simply didn’t feel like it anymore. And, who would have guessed, after a week she stopped too! 🙂

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  5. I participate in three memes per week that I truly enjoy. I love TTT because is fun, WOW because I discover a lot of new books and STS because of the same reason. I do leave a link back to my blog, but only for Blogger (I was in Blogger before and it’s harder to get to the post).

    About commenting in general: Every blogger loves comments. Besides page views, it serves as validation. However, comments have more meaning when they engage the writer and the reader in a discussion. Not all posts are conducive to this though.

    Liza @ Reading with ABC recently posted: Review: Life on the Refrigerator Door by Alice Kuipers
  6. I do the thing of leaving my link in WoW and StS posts mostly because I personally think it’s easier for readers to find my blog with just a click especially on Blogger blogs, but I don’t leave it on blogs with Commentluv. I can see how that can be a little frustrating, though.

    I consider memes to be like this huge social event where you discover books, meet new people and blogs.

    I agree that generic comments like “Nice pick!” are pretty pointless. I want to get to know you a little bit through your comment and if I find something I like, I will most definitely return the favor. And then there are the comments basically forcing you to visit their blog with a comment like “Come visit as well” without a “please” or “if you have some time”. I’m more likely not to comment in those cases.

    Commenting is such a tricky thing and it takes as much care and devotion as writing a review. I’m like Lisa in that I have a tight group of readers who leave meaningful comments that I love and have really gotten to know. I used to go crazy thinking about how this or that person got so many comments without even commenting, but I’ve grown to appreciate my readers so much. I don’t even bother looking at the number anymore. It just takes out the fun of blogging otherwise!

    Great post, Bieke! 🙂

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  7. This is one of the reasons I cut down my memes. I have a feeling a lot of people just leave ‘sounds like a great book, check my post’ on WoW posts. It is an easy meme to copy + paste, because there is not much to say otherwise.. When people do such a thing I don’t take the effort to comment or to visit their blog 🙂

    Mel@thedailyprophecy recently posted: Review 280. Kristin Cashore – Fire.
    • I know! And since I have commentluv here on my blog, it feels so stupid when someone adds their link to the comment. I’ll get it automatically, no need to give it two or three times extra. It’ll just make me want to comment back less.

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